Whispers of the Vanished Woods, opinion 17 November 2025

Whispers of the Vanished Woods

 How Kashmir’s Forests Fell to Greed and Silence.

By Dr Noour Ali Zehgeer

The earlier parts of this series peeled away the layers of Kashmir’s land crisis — the reckless ownership drives under the Roshni Act, the quiet theft of Pandit homes during the dark 1990s, and the abandoned fields left in bureaucratic limbo since Partition. But perhaps nothing wounds deeper than the story of the forests — those sacred green lungs that once wrapped the Valley in life, shelter, and serenity.

 Once, Kashmir’s woods were more than trees. They were guardians of rivers, homes to animals, shields against hunger and flood. The revered saint-poet Sheikh-ul-Alam had warned centuries ago, “Ann poshi teli yeli wan poshi” — food lasts only as long as forests last. Today, those words echo like a lament over bare hillsides and dried riverbeds.

When the fires of militancy swept across Kashmir in the early 1990s, governance vanished overnight. The forest guards disappeared, offices were torched, and the rule of law dissolved into fear. At first, the loss seemed harmless — villagers cutting a few trees for firewood or clearing small patches to grow crops. But as chaos deepened, greed found its chance. Armed men, traders, and desperate villagers together turned the forests into open loot.

By night, gunshots were followed by the rumble of trucks. Deodar and pine, the Valley’s prized giants, were felled and shipped away — some to city markets, others to military camps. Even the forces, it was whispered, took their share. “Everyone had their reason,” says a retired forest guard from Budgam. “For some, it was survival; for others, power.”

Between 1990 and 2010, over five lakh mature trees vanished from Budgam’s Sitharan range alone. Across Kashmir, satellite data shows the Valley losing more than 152 square kilometres of forest cover since 1989. The wounds of that loss still bleed — in swollen rivers, eroded hills, and the choking air that once carried the scent of pine. During 1990 to 2008, the natural resource of this valley was looted, the insensitive businessman of the valley grabbed every commercially viable land to create fortunes for there family. The politicians were alibi to their crimes yet silent and waiting for their shares rather than legally stopping them. So called these Pakistan sponsored militants were part of parcel of this loot which made Valley a barren land, they also made fortunes without caring for our generations to come.

If Trees don’t return to Kashmir, in Next 20yrs we will see our children suffering and making their future dark

From Kral Sangri to Kupwara, the story repeats itself — quiet villages turned into settlements of stumps and stones. “We thought we were taking what was ours,” recalls an elderly villager, staring at the concrete where oak trees once stood. “But we took away our children’s shade.”

When democracy returned in 1996, the damage was already deep. The Public Safety Act (PSA) — once meant to deal with threats to peace — was extended to forest smugglers. Yet the powerful remained untouched. Timber mafias became donors, and politics turned green crime into patronage. “Forests paid for elections,” a former officer remark bitterly.

As of September 2025, official data reveals 19,501 hectares of forest land — nearly 3.9 lakh kanals — encroached across Jammu and Kashmir. Of this, 5,891 hectares lie in Kashmir alone, with the South Circle (Anantnag to Awantipora) worst affected. The pattern is unmistakable: illegal felling under the shadow of development, silence under the pretext of progress.

The 1990s saw timber smuggling evolve into an organized industry. Militants levied “forest taxes,” and smugglers, protected by fear or favour, stripped the woods bare. In places like Tosamaidan, leased to the army in 1964, lakhs of deodars disappeared under the cover of military activity. “We cut to survive,” admits Javed Ahmad, a former smuggler from Budgam. “The militants took their share, and the rest went unseen.”

By the early 2000s, over 84,000 kanals had already been seized. Today, that number has tripled. The victims aren’t just trees — they are people too. From Kupwara’s nomadic Gujjars, who now wander parched pastures, to widows in Kral Sangri who lost homes to the 2014 floods, everyone has paid the price. The Jhelum, once a calm vein of the Valley, now clogs with mud from naked hillsides.

The environmental toll is immense. Studies show a 2°C rise in average night temperatures since 1990 and a steady increase in flash floods and landslides. The Hangul deer — Kashmir’s pride — teeters on the edge of extinction. Medicinal herbs once common in Verinag or Doda now exist only in memories.

Though efforts to reclaim encroached land have begun — with 14.28 lakh kanals retrieved out of 17.22 lakh — the pace is painfully slow. The Forest Protection Force, armed and alert, clears only a few hundred hectares a year. Technology has entered the fight: satellite monitoring, tip-off apps, and drone surveys. But against entrenched corruption and political apathy, such steps barely scratch the surface.

Ironically, even institutions meant to protect are part of the problem. Camps, government offices, and even tourist resorts have been built on forest land. In Dachigam National Park, a proposed CRPF camp threatens to erase habitats of the endangered Hangul. Each new construction is defended as “national interest,” yet each leaf behind another scar.

What’s needed now is courage — and honesty. Kashmir must publish the names of the encroachers, prosecute the powerful, and protect the weak who cut only to live. Forest-dependent communities should be partners, not targets. Projects like REDD+, which reward conservation, could offer new hope if implemented sincerely. Climate change is reshaping Kashmir’s ecology, economy, and daily life—triggering erratic weather, shrinking water bodies, and threatening traditional livelihoods like saffron farming. What the UT government should do is Train youth in climate literacy, disaster response, and green entrepreneurship. Co-create tech-enabled solutions for crop resilience, soil monitoring, and market access. Empower youth to draft climate adaptation policies and engage with local governance bodies.

But in Kashmir, votes still weigh heavier than virtue. Parties trade slogans over bulldozers, yet none speak of the 19,000 hectares already lost. “We took from nature,” says an ex-smuggler now turned forest guide in Tosa maidan, “and she is taking back from us.”

The civil society has also done very little for awareness of not cutting down trees, they are tight lipped like corporate houses of Jammu and Kashmir who could have done a lot under CSR programs. Irony is Kashmiri people themselves are responsible for this mess ,and no one can deny that locals have looted the forest reserves and put generations to come in climate change danger.

The message is clear — if the trees do not return, neither will life as we knew it. The winds that once carried the fragrance of cedar now whisper a warning: we are running out of green, and out of time.

Budgam Bypolls Surprise, editorial 17 November 2025

Budgam bypolls surprise
The recent verdict of Budgam Assembly Constituency has drawn many surprises. The ruling National Conference was defeated as Peoples Democratic Party won a surprising victory.
The Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) secured a significant victory in J&K’s Budgam, where Muntazir Mehdi won with 21,576 votes, defeating the National Conference and an independent candidate by a margin of 4,478 votes. The BJP’s candidate, Mohsin Mosvi, finished sixth with a low count of 2,619 votes.
As a matter of fact, NC defeat comes as party Member of Parliament (MP) Aga Ruhullah Mehdi stayed away from the poll campaign in protest of the Omar Abdullah government’s “inability to deliver on its promises”. The differences between Mr. Abdullah and Mr. Ruhullah surfaced in the open with the two leaders were seen exchanging barbs against each other during the campaigning. Many see Mr. Ruhullah also a factor in the defeat of the NC, besides the anti-incumbency.
In a cryptic message on X, MP Ruhullah said, “Arrogance is the recipe for disaster. Consciousness, humility and introspection is the way”. Budgam saw pro-Ruhullah rallies after the NC lost to the PDP on Friday.
Jammu & Kashmir Chief Minister Omar Abdullah on Friday said that senior National Conference leader Agha Ruhullah “damaged himself politically” by stepping away from the Budgam bypoll campaign, saying the move was intended to send a message to the party but ultimately hurt Ruhullah more than anyone else.
Speaking to reporters, Omar Abdullah, used the English expression “you cut your nose to spite your face” to describe Ruhullah’s decision.
Ruhullah killed himself to give me a message,” Omar said. “But remember, the person who has won from there will never let Ruhullah rise again.
Only Ruhullah can decide whether he will rise again in Budgam or not,” he said. “Whatever happened, happened.
Omar acknowledged that NC anticipated a tough contest even before the campaigning began.
Without doubt this verdict has opened a pandora box.

Bihar Gives Landslide Victory to NDA,Cover story 17 November 2025

Bihar gives Landslide victory to NDA
NDA lead by Bhartiya Janata Party recently achieved a landslide victory in Bihar. Bihar is not just a large and highly populated state of India but the heart of democracy.
the NDA registered a resounding victory in the Bihar Assembly elections, Prime Minister Narendra Modi raised the pitch for and set the eyes on Bengal next. Addressing party workers at the BJP headquarters in Delhi on Friday evening, PM Modi said after Bihar, BJP will next uproot the “jungle raj” in Bengal.
As per the Bihar Assembly elections results announced by the Election Commission on Friday, the NDA was crossing the 200-mark, ensuring a 2/3rd majority.
Even local Congress leaders were disappointed with the result. This reflects the weakness of our organisation. In any election, a political party relies on its organisational strength. If the organisation is weak and cannot function effectively, the overall outcome suffers. Our candidates are all very capable, but even better candidates could have been chosen,” Congress leader and former Governor Nikhil Kumar told news agency.
The daughter of Congress former late veteran strong leader Ahmed Patil , Mumtaz Patel on party’s performance in Bihar elections expressed dismay.
 Congress leader Mumtaz Patel says, “…When we know that we are fighting a system like this, which is so powerful, who have complete control, then obviously the Congress party will have to be alert. Those familiar with the ground are not given a chance. Decision-making is concentrated in the hands of a few people… The Congress party has such workers across the country who, regardless of victory or defeat, I always say are Congressmen at heart. But no one asks them, no one acknowledges them, and they are not given any position or authority. Even in our party, if we are fighting for democracy, if we talk about saving democracy, if we talk about saving the electoral process, then even in our own party, power is concentrated in the hands of a few, and those very people get rewarded again and again. There is no accountability of any kind, and you don’t use the real workers, you don’t even ask them, you don’t even acknowledge them….And I would also like to say that if the electoral process is corrupt, then either the entire opposition should come together and say that we will boycott the elections…The Congress party needs to win the people’s hearts and trust again. Rahul Gandhi is working hard, but I believe that the few within our party who manipulate power are the reason our party faces repeated defeats.”
The verdict is great boost for NDA lead by BJP and Charismatic leadership of Prime Minister Narendra Modi.

GST Reforms Fruits, 6 October 2025 cover story

GST reform fruits
News Kashmir Analysis
In a great development for the people,Goods and Services Tax (GST) reforms have started to provide major  relief to the common citizens while improving India’s business and investment atmosphere.
In this regard,the GST reforms, which came into effect on September 22, 2025, are being considered a major change for India’s 64 million micro, small, and medium enterprises. Experts say that this reform has not only simplified the tax structure but also opened the way for increasing the competitiveness of small industries
India’s consumer economy has achieved its highest Navratri sales in over a decade, a surge attributed to the Modi government’s NextGen GST reforms, which reduced tax rates and increased product accessibility. These measures lowered prices and unlocked consumer spending, leading to upgrades of vehicles, investments in home appliances, and increased spending on lifestyle goods.
Brands and retailers across sectors reported significant sales growth, generally ranging from 25 per cent to 100 per cent. The festive season’s first half, including Onam, Durga Puja, and Dussehra, is the country’s largest consumption period, accounting for 40-45 per cent of total festive sales.
In our region, The Government of Jammu and Kashmir has commenced the implementation of Next Generation GST Reforms 2.0, effective from September 22, 2025, aligning with the national tax rationalization drive and reinforcing its commitment to consumer welfare.
The overhaul simplifies the GST framework by reducing multiple tax slabs to just two primary rates—5 per cent for essentials and 18 per cent for most other goods and services. These measures are poised to lower the cost burden on households, insurance, medicines, education, and key livelihood sectors, said an official statement.
Importantly,recently Union Home Minister and Minister of Cooperation, Shri Amit Shah, has said that the Modi government has gifted NEXTGen GST reforms to all the mothers and sisters of the country on the auspicious occasion of Navratri.
In a series of posts on X platform, Union Home Minister and Minister of Cooperation said, on the auspicious occasion of Navratri, the Modi government presents the gift of NEXTGen GST reforms to all the mothers and sisters of the country! The promise of GST reforms made by Modi ji to the people of the country has been implemented across the nation starting today. This GST reform includes a historic reduction in taxes on over 390 items. Unprecedented relief in GST on sectors such as food and household items, home building materials, automobiles, agriculture, services, toys, sports, handicrafts, education, healthcare, and insurance will bring joy to the lives of the people and increase their savings.

World Habitat day, editorial 6 October 2025

World Habitat day 2025
Habitat is of utmost importance to every creature on this planet. It’s only in particular habitat that any living being can survive.
World Habitat Day is marked on the first Monday of October each year,and is recognized by the United Nations to reflect on the state of towns and cities, and on the basic right of all to adequate shelter.The day is also intended to remind the world that everyone has the power and the responsibility to shape the future of towns and cities.World Habitat Day was first celebrated in 1986 in Nairobi, Kenya, and the theme chosen for that year was “Shelter is My Right”.
This year World Habitat day is on 6 October,which is the first Monday.
As a matter of fact, UN decided that this should be an annual event and the first Monday of October was chosen. The day is celebrated in many countries around the world and various activities are organized to examine the problems of rapid urbanisation and its impact on the environment and human poverty.
Annual themes for World Habitat Day have been diverse and have included “Shelter for the Homeless”, “Our Neighbourhood”, “Safer Cities,” “Women in Urban Government,” Cities without Slums” and “Water and Sanitation for Cities.”
UN Habitat makes plain the need to plan cities in order to avoid the chaotic development of urban sprawl and all the associated problems that are created as a result.
We need to take a pledge on this day to preserve all habitats.

Why Should Men Never Argue With Women? The Bridge Between Emotion and Logic

Why Should Men Never Argue With Women? The Bridge Between Emotion and Logic
By:DrFiaz Maqbool Fazili

It is one of the oldest and most enduring sources of friction between the sexes: a conversation that starts with good intentions and swiftly spirals into a confounding clash of worlds. He says one thing; she hears another. She expresses a feeling; he offers a solution. The result is a familiar stalemate: she feels unheard, and he feels misunderstood. The common, albeit flippant, advice that “men should never argue with women” is not a surrender of reason or a suggestion of female irrationality. Rather, it is a crude, oversimplified banner for a profound and necessary truth. The path to harmony lies not in avoiding conflict, but in fundamentally understanding that men and women often speak different, yet equally valid, native languages—the language of logic and the language of emotion.

A great deal of interpersonal conflict stems from this fundamental divergence in communication processing. From a young age, many boys are socialized to be problem-solvers. They are taught to suppress overt emotion, to be stoic, and to value action over feeling. Their world is often one of structure, hierarchy, and fixable problems. This upbringing forges a mind that, when confronted with a issue, instinctively reaches for logic. It is a toolkit for navigating the world, a way to create order from chaos. When his partner shares a problem, his deeply ingrained response is to diagnose the issue and prescribe a remedy. He is, in his mind, being helpful, protective, and engaged.

Women, on the other hand, are often socialized within a different framework. They are frequently permitted, and even encouraged, to develop a rich and nuanced emotional vocabulary. For many, emotions are not a messy byproduct of thought but the very medium through which thought is processed in real time. Articulating feelings is not merely about venting; it is a method of exploration, a way to untangle complex internal experiences by giving them voice. When she shares a problem, she is often engaging in this very process—she is thinking out loud, connecting the emotional dots, and seeking validation and connection.

The challenge, and the primary source of so many arguments, arises when these two native languages collide. When she speaks from her heart, sharing the frustration of her day, and he responds with a step-by-step plan to fix it, a profound disconnect occurs. She interprets his logical blueprint as a dismissal of her feelings, as if he is saying, “Your emotions are an illogical problem to be solved, not a valid experience to be shared.” He, in turn, is baffled by her rejection of his help. He offered a perfectly good solution, and his efforts were met with tears or anger. He feels unappreciated and ineffective, wondering why she brought him the problem if she did not want it fixed. This is the crux of the misinterpretation: he mistakes her request for empathy as a request for advice.

The key to bridging this divide is for both parties to learn that emotion and logic are not enemies locked in a battle for supremacy. They are two essential instruments in the orchestra of human understanding, and a beautiful symphony requires both. The goal is not for one to convert to the other’s language, but to become bilingual, to develop the empathy and patience to listen for the meaning behind the words.

For a man, this requires a conscious shift in focus. His strength is not just in building solutions but in providing a sanctuary of understanding. He must learn to listen with empathy, which is an active and engaged practice of feeling with her, rather than acting upon her feelings. This means resisting the powerful instinct to troubleshoot and instead practicing simple, validating responses. It means understanding that sometimes, perhaps even most of the time, she does not need a mechanic for her soul; she needs a witness to her experience. His calm, steady presence in the face of emotional storms is not passivity; it is a powerful form of support. By holding space without immediately trying to dispel the discomfort, he makes her feel safe, seen, and profoundly understood. This requires him to value her emotional reality as much as he values his logical one, recognizing that what may not make linear sense to him is the very substance of her present truth. Respecting her feelings in this way is the cornerstone of building deep, unshakable trust.

For a woman, the path forward involves a parallel shift in interpretation. It is crucial to recognize that his logical, solution-oriented response is rarely a cold dismissal. More often than not, it is his language of care. When he immediately starts brainstorming fixes, he is operating from a place of deep-seated instinct to protect and provide. He is trying to build a levee against the river of her distress. Understanding this intention can reframe his response from one of indifference to one of devoted, if misplaced, concern. To help him learn her language, she can assist by communicating her needs with clarity. A simple, gentle directive can work wonders: “I just need you to listen right now, I’m not ready for solutions,” or, “I value your advice, could you help me think this through?” This clear signaling prevents the dangerous game of assumption, where she hopes he will just know what she needs, and he is left guessing incorrectly. Furthermore, she can learn to respect his steady, calm presence as his unique form of strength. His silence or measured words are not always a sign of detachment; often, they are his way of creating stability and containing the situation, of being the anchor in the storm.

Ultimately, the old adage is wrong. Men should not “never argue with women.” In fact, avoiding difficult conversations is a recipe for resentment and distance. The real imperative is to transform the argument itself. A true, productive conversation between a man and a woman is not a battle to be won with superior logic or emotional intensity. It is a collaborative project to build a bridge. He must take a step onto the bridge from the shore of logic, and she must take a step from the shore of emotion. They meet in the middle, in a space where feelings are honored as the context and logic is valued as a tool. When both sides make the effort to respect and learn the other’s native tongue, communication ceases to be a source of conflict and becomes the very foundation of a deeper, more intimate, and unshakable connection.


Author  is a surgeon, Contributes with positive perception management on socio moral  issues .




 
 
 
 
 
 
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Supreme court orders removal of Stray Dogs, Cover story 10 November,2025

Supreme court orders removal of stray Dogs
News Kashmir Analysis
Stray Dogs Menace is a serious challenge in entire country. The special cause of concern has been dog bites ,which cause serious injuries and deaths too. The stray dogs have become a serious civics  challenge in country too. The animal rights activist have also been quite vocal while advocating rights of stray dogs.
In a landmark decision Supreme court made key observation recently.court was hearing a suo moto case, which was initiated on July 28 over a report on stray dog bites leading to rabies, particularly among children, in the national capital.
According to Livelaw, Having regard to the “alarming rise of dog-bite incidents”, the Supreme Court on Friday ordered that every educational institution, hospital, public sports complexes, bus stand and depots, railway stations, etc must be fenced properly to prevent the entry of stray dogs.
It will be the responsibility of the concerned local self-government institutions to pick up stray dogs from such institutions/areas, and shift them to designated dog shelters after vaccination and sterilisation in accordance with the Animal Birth Control Rules. The Court further ordered that stray dogs picked up from these areas must not be released to the same spot from which they were picked up. “Permitting the same would frustrate the very purpose of liberating such institutions from the presence of stray dogs,” the Court observed.
In this regard , bench of Justices Vikram Nath, Sandeep Mehta and NV Anjaria passed the order in the suo motu Stray Dogs matter. The Court directed that the local bodies must carry out periodic inspections to ensure that no stray dog habitat exists in such premises.
After the order was pronounced, Senior Advocates Anand Grover, Karuna Nundy etc, urged the bench to consider their submissions before signing the order. Nundy said that if dogs are removed, new dogs will occupy the same spot. The bench however refused to entertain the submissions.
The Court took note of various reports regarding dog-bite incidents across the country. Amicus Curiae Senior Advocate Gaurav Agarwal also submitted a report.
Stray dog bites have been also major cause of concern in Jammu and Kashmir as it has lead to precious loss of lives and horrible injuries .
This is undoubtedly a landmark order which would ensure that stray dogs menace is tackled and humans live in harmony.

Women Shining in Corporate world, 10 November 2025 editorial.

Women shining in Corporate World
Corporate world is backbone of present day world economy.
Women are playing a formidable role  in the present world economy. Hire or promote a woman to join your board of directors now to reap better results. According to a research, even one woman on the board of directors in a firm can lead to stronger corporate governance practices than those with no women. Moreover, companies with at least three women in board of directors rank even higher, depending on specific industry sectors, the study said. The findings are an eye opener over the burning facts that women are equal partners in economical boom of any society or country.
“The findings suggest the presence of women on a board encourages a greater focus on board practices and behaviours related to good governance, even when they are a lone voice,”said business professor Judith Zaichkowsky from Simon Fraser University in Canada said nearly a decade back.
 The study found significant improvement in scores with one women, especially in traditionally male-dominated industries such as energy and mining. All this proves that women presence in corporate is slated to increase.
In our country too and region also the women are shining in corporate world and making a mark. The corporate world is taking a great direction under the leadership of women.
The presence of women on the board could be a signal that a company cares more about good corporate governance, the expert analysis from time to time has revealed. Women role in corporate world is now redefining the corporate sector and this needs to be done in such a way that women shine in all positions .

How to Love Your Spouse Unconditionally, opinion 10 November,2025

A Love Without Preconditions!. 

How to Love Your Spouse Unconditionally:


By Dr. Fiaz Maqbool Fazili 

Love in marriage, much like life itself, is never static. It breathes, evolves, and sometimes bleeds under the weight of unmet expectations and human flaws. The idea of loving someone unconditionally—especially a spouse—is often glorified in poetry, religion, and philosophy, yet rarely practiced in the daily grind of shared existence. Unconditional love is not a sentimental phrase or a romantic illusion; it is a deliberate, disciplined act of the heart. It means giving your partner what they need the most, when they deserve it the least, at great personal cost to yourself.

When I first heard those words more than three decades ago, they struck me as both profound and painfully demanding. At the time, I was a young husband, navigating the uncharted territory of marriage with all the impatience and ego of youth. Those words, however, became a quiet compass—guiding me through arguments, disappointments, and moments of emotional drought. They taught me that love without conditions is not about perfection or permanent harmony. It is about choosing your partner, every day, especially when they are hardest to love. In a world increasingly defined by transient connections and conditional agreements, the sanctity of marital love faces unprecedented challenges. This piece explores the profound, often difficult, yet ultimately transformative practice of loving a spouse without conditions—a journey not of perfection, but of persistent, grace-filled choice. It is a reflection drawn from decades of lived experience, offered not as a prescription, but as a testament to the enduring power of a love that chooses to see, accept, and cherish.

Marriage, by its very nature, tests the elasticity of love. It places two imperfect individuals under the same emotional roof and asks them to build a life together. There are seasons when everything feels effortless—when laughter fills the kitchen, when plans align, and when the smallest gestures feel enough. But there are also days when silence stretches longer than words, when fatigue replaces affection, and when both partners feel unseen or misunderstood. It is in those fragile spaces that unconditional love either takes root or withers.

To love your spouse unconditionally is not to ignore their flaws or excuse their mistakes. It is to accept their humanity and choose to see the whole person—the good, the difficult, and the growing. It means extending grace, not as an act of surrender, but as a conscious expression of strength. True love is not about fixing someone; it is about standing beside them as they evolve.

Society often measures love by reciprocity—the give-and-take that keeps relationships balanced. But unconditional love transcends that equation. It gives without keeping score. Yet, this does not mean self-erasure or tolerating emotional neglect. Loving without conditions does not mean living without boundaries. In fact, setting boundaries is often an act of love, both for yourself and for your spouse. When you continue to give endlessly without being emotionally nourished in return, you eventually drain your spirit. Love cannot thrive in an environment where only one heart beats for two.

The idea of unconditional love finds its most perfect expression in divine example. The scriptures remind us that love is patient, kind, and enduring—not because it is blind to faults, but because it chooses compassion over judgment. God’s love for humanity is not transactional; it is steadfast even in the face of betrayal and weakness. That sacred model of love is not meant to burden us with impossible ideals, but to remind us that love can indeed be both strong and forgiving at once.

Marriage offers the closest human opportunity to practice that divine kind of love. When we forgive, when we listen instead of reacting, when we show up in the midst of disappointment, we mirror something larger than ourselves. It is not a weakness to love deeply; it is a rare courage to do so when circumstances test your patience and pride.

In the daily rhythm of marriage, unconditional love often manifests in the smallest acts. Respecting your spouse’s opinions even when you disagree, listening with empathy, believing in their abilities, and encouraging them in moments of self-doubt—these gestures weave the quiet fabric of enduring love. When you speak about your partner with respect in front of others, when you make time for them despite the chaos of life, you are telling them that they matter, that they are seen. Love is not a grand declaration; it is in the consistency of everyday tenderness.

To love unconditionally is also to allow imperfection. Letting your spouse fail, make mistakes, or struggle without judgment is part of this sacred dance. Control may feel like security, but it often suffocates growth. When you step back and give them the space to fall and rise again, you are not losing power—you are nurturing partnership. You are saying, “I trust you to find your way, and I will still be here when you do.”

Encouragement, too, is a language of love. Be their loudest cheerleader, not their harshest critic. Celebrate their victories, however small, and acknowledge their efforts even when outcomes fall short. Gratitude has a quiet magic—it transforms ordinary moments into emotional connection. Saying “thank you” or “I love you” may sound simple, but those words have the power to remind your partner that they are cherished and valued.

Of course, none of this comes without struggle. Unconditional love demands humility, patience, and self-awareness. It asks us to confront our own egos, our need to control, and our fear of being vulnerable. It is far easier to love when love is reciprocated. But the real measure of love is how it behaves when tested—when it must stand alone, fueled only by commitment and faith.

I still remember a time when my marriage felt weighed down by silence and fatigue. I taped that quote—“Unconditional love is giving the other person what they need the most, when they deserve it the least, at great personal cost to yourself”—to my bathroom mirror. I read it every morning before stepping into the day. It reminded me that love is not an emotion to be felt, but a decision to be made. It reminded me that I was called to love my wife not because she was perfect, but because she was mine.

Over the years, that lesson has deepened. I have realized that unconditional love is not a single act, but a lifelong practice. It requires forgiveness that goes beyond apology, understanding that precedes explanation, and faith that transcends disappointment. It is the slow, steady choice to nurture a bond even when it feels easier to retreat.

When the dust of daily life settles, when careers shift and appearances fade, what remains is the quiet companionship built through decades of shared resilience. To love your spouse unconditionally is to see beauty in the ordinary, to hold space for each other’s humanity, and to continue reaching across the distance when words fail.

At the end of every long day, when I turn to the person who has walked beside me through storms and seasons, I am reminded of one truth: love that asks for nothing in return often gives back the most. It may not always look perfect, but it endures. It grows through grace. It redeems through time. And in that unspoken endurance lies the purest form of love—a love without conditions.

The Author is a medical doctor and social commentator who writes columns highlighting social wrongs and public concerns. He can be reached at drfiazfazili@gmail.com
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Smooth Assembly Session, 3 November 2025 cover story

Smooth Assembly session
News Kashmir Analysis
The recent Assembly session in Jammu and Kashmir’s legislature has set a remarkable precedent, marking a significant milestone in the region’s history. The session, which concluded with the adjournment sine die by Speaker Abdul Rahim Rather, was notable for its smooth functioning and productive proceedings. Despite being a nine-day session, it witnessed minimal disruptions and showcased a commendable level of coordination between the opposition and the government.
The session saw the passage of several key bills, including five government bills, and discussions on two private members’ resolutions. The Assembly Secretariat received an impressive 732 questions, with 682 being admitted and 29 taken up for discussion. Additionally, 97 Zero Hour issues were raised, and 73 supplementaries were discussed by members.
While 14 bills were received, 33 pending bills from previous sessions remain on the agenda. Out of 41 private bills listed, eight were discussed, and one private member’s resolution was passed. The session also saw the submission of 67 calling attention notices, with ten being taken up for discussion.
This session’s success can be attributed to the constructive debates and minimal disruptions, demonstrating the Assembly’s commitment to meaningful deliberations. The cooperation between the opposition and the government has set a positive precedent, showcasing the effectiveness of the legislative process in Jammu and Kashmir.
The members of Assembly also praised the historic session. Minister for Health, Education and Social Welfare, Sakeena Itoo said that the Speaker was deserving of congratulations and thanked him for running the House in a non-partisan and objective manner to ensure a productive and fruitful session.
She thanked the opposition for playing its role effectively in holding the government accountable, adding that they deserve credit for their constructive participation.
She expressed gratitude to the Chief Minister, Omar Abdullah for spending time in the House and responding to the Members’ queries.
Regarding the queries raised by MLAs about the replies, Minister said that all replies in the House were prepared after due consideration to ensure satisfactory responses.
MLA M.Y. Tarigami thanked all members and staff for making the session fruitful and productive, suggesting that future sessions be held for a longer duration to allow sufficient time for legislators to raise issues of public importance.
Without an iota of doubt it has been a historic positive Assembly session.